Time Out for You
It amazes me how many moms do not
take hardly any time out for themselves. It is like they
feel their families will not be able to function without
them. I used to take time out for myself a lot, take Yoga
classes, go in the steam room at the Y, stuff like that.
Now that we have two kids I feel like it is a big burden
to leave my husband with the kids for extended periods of
time, even though I am with them all day long. It is a
hard thing to realize that my kids will be fine and my
husband will be too, if I do take a few hours for myself,
even if it just means I go to the library to read for a
few hours in peace and quiet.
husbands are more than happy to watch the kids for their
wives, especially if they know their wife will come back
rejuvenated and rested. I saw an Oprah where women would
go on trips anywhere from a few days to a few months to
take time out for themselves. Time out to refresh and
rejuvenate themselves, a sabbatical of sorts. I wish I
could do that, I think I need to start at a few hours more
often and work my way up to a few days. Oh ... the thought
of going to a retreat center or a spa and have hours on
end to indulge in sinful things like 2 hour long bubble
baths and massages and breakfast in bed. I think I can
work up to a full weekend away!
For now I will settle for an hour
long bath while reading my favorite book. Even if it means
I will be interrupted by the telephone and the kiddos, the
small bits of serenity I achieve helps me throughout the
day. At night I try to take a walk by myself, just to
think and breathe. My husband knows that I need some space
and he will graciously watch the kids for me. He also
doesn't mind watching the kids while I have a girls night
out with a few of my friends once a month or so.
Another thing I try to do for
myself is exercise. I heard somewhere before, they said to
never feel guilty (I think it was from Denise Austin the
fitness Guru) about taking time out for yourself to
exercise. I try to do it every other day. I do Yoga, Cindy
Crawford Tapes, whatever, just me and the TV getting a
good workout. I like to do it in the beginning of the day,
so that I do not keep putting it off, and then it never
You might find that for you a
moment of peace comes from an interrupted shower/bath. Or
maybe an hour to read quietly. Your family should be
willing to let mommy have some
time” and give you a few minutes of peace. Try a soothing
cup of chamomile tea and a great book, just for a half an
hour before you go to bed. If you are a bath taker, try
taking a bath with the lights out (door locked)! And
candles lit. For the full effect you can toss some rose
petals in with some bath salts. (I highly recommend Bath
and Body Works Bath Salts in Sandalwood, heavenly!) You
will be amazed how much better you feel when you step out
of that tub.
could also think about getting a baby-sitter or hubby to
watch kids so that you can go to a local coffee shop or
bookstore and read the newspaper or a book in a quiet
place. Or whatever you have been wanting to do kids free.
Remember for you to be a good
mother to your kids and wife to your husband, you need to
take some time out for yourself. I REPEAT, YOU NEED TO
TAKE SOME TIME OUT FOR YOURSELF! Your body will thank you.
Now, go jump in a tub!